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January 3, 2011

The Keys To Happiness We Always Seem To Misplace

We have failed to recognize that the keys to happiness lies within, and by seeking outside of ourselves for happiness we find ourselves confronted with an illusion that will never satisfy our deepest of desires.

With so many books on the market about true happiness and the secret to an amazing life etc, I am deliberately not going to write my top ten list of how to achieve happiness. Rather I would like to invite you with me on this journey so we can search within ourselves together the meaning of true happiness.

What constitutes a happy and enjoyable life? A great career, house, car, fabulous clothes, a perfect mate, perhaps a big screen TV, a monastery, church, maybe good health, perfect weight. These elements contribute to the process of happiness, but in themselves they are not the root of happiness. Many of us assume that once all these elements are attained, then and only then will we truly become happy. The problem herein lies that all of these aspects are based upon the external attainment of things and objects that really have no permanence. Or our attention upon these things fade into the background of what else we want, never really beginning to scratch the surface of contentment.

As much as we want to believe that all these elements will bring happiness, the truth remains that we could have all these things and be down right crazy. We could have everything material and find ourselves emotionally incapable our loving ourselves, and that my friend is what is blocking true happiness. As I’ve learned through rather hard and unnerving lessons in life, if I can’t be happy with myself and who I am, how could I ever expect to be satisfied with anything in my outer world, regardless of how appealing they seem?

Nobody is perfect, no one leads a perfect life no matter how the surface looks. We all got issues we need to work through. Lets face it, we cannot bury our attention in external fancies expecting to accomplishing the almighty task of ignoring our hurts, pains and frets. It’s that raw pain we feel that harsh discomfort that actually defines the lines of true happiness. How you may ask? Without the dark, how can the light be defined for the pure beauty it is? Without my deep sadness I may have never really known what true joy feels like.

We are the only people who can make ourselves happy or unhappy, and by placing expectations on the outer world to provide us with that happiness we devalue our own sense of self. When you are internally content and blissful it doesn’t really matter what is going on outside of you good or bad, because you’ve reached a happy medium with yourself. Now that’s not to suggest that you are a cold person or that you will be free of all challenges and obstacles in life, c’mon now it’s those very challenges that strengthens us for further lessons in life.

The key to happiness are laying on the hinges of our hearts waiting to be recognized. Instead of focusing on attaining things to makes you happy, rather become happiness that way when you attain what you were searching for it will only build upon the happy foundation you’ve already created within.

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4 Comment(s)

  1. Paul | Jan 21, 2008 | Reply

    Yeah we have to be happy within ourselves first I think. Good topic.

  2. sabina | Jan 21, 2008 | Reply

    I like this topic. Thanks. We have to be happy with ourselves first.

  3. Lee | Jan 21, 2008 | Reply

    I like your article. Its eye opening. Thanks.

  4. Sadia | Jan 21, 2008 | Reply

    Good writing. I like your thought about happiness. But thinking about it, do you think we really can be happy without a car or television or simple as coffee machine? Modern science is contributing to our happiness. I guess it depends how we use it.

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