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		<title>Everything you need to know about eToro&#8217;s Software for Forex currency trading</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[As promised in my previous article (eToro’s Web Trading Platform – Best Forex Trading Platforms Out There) here is my findings about the and analysis of eToro&#8217;s software platform. At first I was hesitant to install this too on my computer thinking it may cause some troubles. After installing this, however, I have found eToro [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- sphereit start --><p>As promised in my previous article (<a title="eToro’s Web Tradding Platform – Best Forex Trading Platforms Out There" href="http://www.seriousopinion.com/etoro-web-trading/">eToro’s Web Trading Platform – Best Forex Trading Platforms Out There</a>) here is my findings about the and analysis of eToro&#8217;s software platform.</p>
<p>At first I was hesitant to install this too on my computer thinking it may cause some troubles. After installing this, however, I have found eToro software trading tool is very user-friendly and neat just like the eToro Web Trading Platform. I was amazed that that both tools look and feel the same and your account information is transparent. Whatever you see on your Web Trading Platform its the same on the software side. You use the same set of user name and password to log in.</p>
<p>However, with the eToro software version, when you start the tool, it gives you two options, &#8220;Trade For Real&#8221; and &#8220;Practice Trading.&#8221; For any new traders I would strongly recommend you use the eToro&#8217;s practice account first. It is free and it doesn&#8217;t cost you anything. You can get the feel of it before jumping into the real trading environment. You can also test your strategies in practice account.</p>
<p>For this article, I will concentrate on eToro&#8217;s &#8220;Trade For Real&#8221; option.</p>
<p>After you login you see a similar window like the one below:</p>
<p><img class="alignnone" title="eToro software after log in" src="http://www.seriousopinion.com/wp-content/gallery/etoro/eToro-after-login-2010.JPG" alt="" width="460" height="360" /></p>
<p>You can click to close the side window. However, I would recommend you keep that on so you can see forex market moving in real time. You have the option for Top Traders&#8217; Insight, Trading Challenge, Chat Profile. Each one has specific purpose on eToro to help the traders make the right decision to maximize their profits.</p>
<p>eToro&#8217;s Top Traders&#8217; Insight allows you to see what other traders are doing. You can make a decision based on this information whether to execute a buy or sell trade on a certain pair. You can see up to 10 pairs at the same time.</p>
<p>eToro&#8217;s Trading Challenge lets you view how much top traders are earnings. You can sometime chat with them too to make your decision to maximize your profit.</p>
<p>eToro&#8217;s Chat lets you chat with Help desk or any other online users. you can communicate with them and you can find out their strategies. All the traders are very helpful.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.etoro.com/B71_A8876_TClick.aspx" target="_Top"><img src="http://www.etoro.com/B71_A8876_TGet.aspx" border="0" alt="" width="468" height="60" /></a></p>
<p>At this stage you can also see the main trading area of eToro. You have easy access to FOREX currency trading market and also Commodities market. Commodities you can trade right now are Gold and Silver. It has the same functionalities as the Forex trading option that I will analyze here.</p>
<p>My initial feeling about eToro&#8217;s software is that it is very clean and user friendly. I last used it in 2008. They have made some impressive improvements since then and I am hopping the improvements continues. Some of the things I like and enjoy are:</p>
<ul>
<li>One of the best options for any forex traders is the option to manipulate data. I think eToro is one of the best tools out there for that. You have access to basic and advanced charts.</li>
<li>One click access to the charts of any pairs. This really helps seeing what is happening to each pair of currencies in the market between 30 days and 1 minutes intervals. It&#8217;s amazing. Anyone who likes graphs will like this. You can also follow trends.</li>
<li>For some more advanced users of eToro you have &#8220;Advanced Charts&#8221; option. This allows you to use technical indicators such as Simple Moving Average, Exponential Moving Average, Triangular Moving Average and many more technical indicators. This option was not there in 2008. I like this because it gives me the opportunity to see which strategy to use.</li>
<li>Executing an order to Buy or Sell is very easy.</li>
<li>It allows you to view Open trades, History, News, Calendar information. All these are very useful for any traders on eToro.</li>
<li>You also have access to Visual Mode trading which allows you to trade visually if you do not want to be bothered by all other information. Once you change to eToro&#8217;s visual mode you see a screen like the following:</li>
</ul>
<p><img class="alignnone" title="eToro Visual" src="http://seriousopinion.com/wp-content/gallery/etoro/eToro-visual-2010.JPG" alt="" width="460" height="360" /></p>
<ul>
<li>The depth of access to information on eToro is really vast.</li>
<li>Option for practice account.</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Some of the advantages for professional traders or new traders:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Forex Trading Software is for Professionals: From my research I have found that eToro platform is designed to accommodate beginner trader, however I think one overlooked or less known benefit of eToro&#8217;s Forex currency trading software is that it offers seasoned traders who are looking for accuracy and advanced tools in their forex software.</li>
<li>Advanced Charting for all users: You can benefit from this does not matter what level of expertise you have on forex trading.</li>
<li>Automated Signals and Orders: To make it simpler for you to keep track of forex market activity, the eToro platform provides you with free auto signaling software for forex trading. Since the beginning of the global financial crisis, the forex market has experienced almost unprecedented levels of volatility, which means that the opportunities for profit have never been as widespread. While this is a great incentive for online investors to switch to currency traders, the increased market activity can sometimes make it difficult to keep up with all the currency pairs at once. This is where auto signaling software comes in. You can easily keep track of all the currency pairs by placing automated signal alarms according to your trend analysis. Usually traders set auto signals to notify them when a trend has become significant enough to trade, or on the contrary, when the trend is about to turn so you can change your positions accordingly.</li>
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<p><a href="http://www.etoro.com/B1942_A8876_TClick.aspx" target="_Top"><img src="http://www.etoro.com/B1942_A8876_TGet.aspx" border="0" alt="" width="468" height="60" /></a></p>
<p><strong>What you should do now?</strong></p>
<p>Well to be a successful forex currency trader, regardless of which platform you use, you must do your research. As always having a good strategy is a must. You must be able to take out emotion out of the trading mentality. Remember, it is about the money. Keeping this in mind, I would recommend you start at least a practice account and do some trading. Chat with others and see if it is for you or not.</p>
<p><a title="Is eToro Legit?" href="http://www.etoro.com/A8876_TClick_Sis eToro Legit?.aspx"><strong>Is eToro Legit?</strong></a></p>
<p>I have been asked this question via email so many times, just unbelievable. Yes eToro is Legit. It is working for me and for many.</p>
<p><strong>Will eToro give me my money when I want to withdraw?</strong></p>
<p>Definitely they will give you money. Refer to my previous posts about my experience from 2008. I have put up screenshots of all the communications for money transfer. It was great and easy. Of course you have to proof that it is you. I know it is hard for first timers to understand how internet could make them money. It does work. You just have to be patient. If you are worried about anything speak with your account manager at eToro. They have been working pretty hard for me.</p>
<p><strong>How will I make money?</strong></p>
<p>eToro is not going to make you money. You are going to make yourself money using eToro. You have to know that Forex is a currency trading platform. Just like any other business it has its own risks. That&#8217;s why I mentioned in all my posts since 2008 that take your emotions out or that do not invest what you cannot lose. You lose money in stock market too but you don&#8217;t blame your trading agent for that. If you lose money in the stock market it is your own fault because you may not have done the research properly. Same goes for eToro. However, you can minimize risks if you follow strategies on eToro. Look for some strategies on the internet.</p>
<p><strong>How much I will make with eToro?</strong></p>
<p>Like everyone who wants to make money from Forex, it is a burning question. It all depends on how much you will make on eToro. Or on any other trading platforms. However, as always, I would advise you do your due diligence. It is hard to earn money but if you have the right strategy eToro can help you making the money you want.</p>
<p><a title="What is making eToro diferent?" href="http://www.etoro.com/A8876_TClick_SWhat is making eToro different?.aspx"><strong>What is making eToro different?</strong></a></p>
<p>I would say the ability to bring up such a great platform for new traders to advanced traders is an amazing differentiation for eToro from other platforms. Another amazing thing is that their support personnel is very good at what they do. I am from Canada and every time i had problems and contacted them they were prompt in addressing all those issues. With big forex trading companies you have to wait for a response. But with eToro you can chat with Helpdesk or you can call them or you can email your account manager directly.</p>
<p>Well that is my observation about eToro. No one can ask you to do anything but you can learn, educate yourself and make the decision for yourself. The fact that you are reading this post is that you are searching for information on eToro. Well its just a click away. Try them out.</p>
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		<title>Cohabitation and Relationship – Final Part: Love me in the morning, or nooky in the night time? And the Bottom Line</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 21 Nov 2009 14:20:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Cheryl Coull</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[(I know I said we were covering the top ten issues to consider when thinking about moving in together; consider this a bonus item, a freebie. After all, what would a discussion about cohabitation be without a discussion of sex and intimacy?) Remember when I said that money is one of the main things married [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- sphereit start --><p>(I know I said we were covering the top ten issues to consider when thinking about moving in together; consider this a bonus item, a freebie. After all, what would a discussion about cohabitation be without a discussion of sex and intimacy?)</p>
<p>Remember when I said that money is one of the main things married couples/cohabitation couples fight about the most? Intimacy is the other. It seems strange, right? Why would anyone fight about something that’s supposed to be fun? Well, intimacy in a relationship is always complicated, but when you throw in the complications of <em>living together</em>, intimacy can suddenly become more stressful than you’d ever thought possible.</p>
<p>What happens? It’s like this: Suddenly, instead of being a dating couple whose spare time is spent enjoying each other’s company (in and/or out of bed), suddenly you’re this common-law couple who are, minus the piece of paper, living more like a married couple. Suddenly there are bills to pay, chores to do around the house, dinner parties to host, family time to balance, and romance can seem like the last thing on anyone’s mind. People have jobs that make them tired and irritated; people get sick; lots of things can happen that get in the way of a healthy sex life.</p>
<p>What if, besides all of those issues, you simply have different “clocks” when it comes to sex? You may not have realize it before moving in together, but some people are morning people and some people are evening people (I don’t just mean conversationally!) and somehow you have to figure out a way to make it work. Partner A wakes up in the morning ready to go, but Partner B doesn’t like anyone even <em>talking</em> to them before they’ve been awake for a good ½ hour … it’s a common situation that most couples face, and there are lots of different ways you can make it work.</p>
<p>For example, if one of you is not a morning person, then sex before a crazy work day is probably not going to happen. People are usually rushed enough in the morning without having to find time for sex with a sleepy partner  before hitting the road and getting caught in the rush-hour traffic! However, this doesn’t exactly satisfy Partner A’s craving for an extra-good morning, right? Well, that’s what WEEKENDS are for. For most people, Saturday is a day to relax, sleep in, not have to worry about to work on time. Weekend mornings cater to people like Partner B because it’s not quite as early; they still get the hours of sleep they crave, while Partner A can have the sexy morning they lust for.</p>
<p>For a different example, Partner B is a night time person, whereas Partner A tends to come home and just want to relax, veg out, even go to bed early if it’s been a really long day. What’s Partner B to do? Set up a date night! Just because you’re now living together, it doesn’t mean you can’t have dates, does it? (Even my parents still go out on dates!) Friday night, Saturday night, even Wednesday night, whatever works with your schedule; set aside a night that’s just for the two of you. Cook dinner, go to the movies, have some wine, whatever you like; Partner A will see that, at least now and then, evenings can be sexy too!</p>
<p><strong>What did we do?</strong> Sorry, but while BF doesn’t *generally* mind me writing about him, or our relationship, I think I’m going to leave our personal details between the sheets this time. <img src='http://www.seriousopinion.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_wink.gif' alt=';)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p><strong>Bottom Line:</strong></p>
<p>It’s an exciting time, but moving in together isn’t a decision to be made lightly, on a whim. Rather, it’s something that should be discussed about, rationally, before any decisions are made. Don’t get so carried away with the emotional, romantic side of it that you neglect to I’m not saying you need to take my list and make a meeting out of it, but I am saying that it’s important to keep some of these ideas in mind. It’s better to talk about it beforehand, rather than move in and <em>then</em> discover some unresolved problems or issues that now have to be dealt with, while you’re living under the same roof. Don’t panic if you don’t automatically agree with everything your partner says; just try to find a healthy way to compromise that will satisfy you both. Good luck <img src='http://www.seriousopinion.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>Cohabitation and Relationship – Part Ten: Solving problems?</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 20 Nov 2009 13:17:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Cheryl Coull</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In every relationship, no matter how lovey-dovey you are, problems can and will arise that will have to be dealt with. There could be money problems, a scheduling mishap, a disagreement about household responsibilities, or someone could accidentally erase your PVR – when you’re living in close quarters, there are lots of opportunities to grow [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- sphereit start --><p>In every relationship, no matter how lovey-dovey you are, problems can and will arise that will have to be dealt with. There could be money problems, a scheduling mishap, a disagreement about household responsibilities, or someone could accidentally erase your PVR – when you’re living in close quarters, there are lots of opportunities to grow closer, but also to be driven crazy by issues, whether they are big issues or small issues. Fights happen! The size of the issues don’t really matter; what matters is how you choose to deal with them.</p>
<p>A lot of how you deal with your problems depends on the personalities of you and your partner. One of you might be a let’s-hash-it-all-out kind of person, where the other might be a leave-me-alone-to-think-about-it type. Obviously, such different approaches could spell trouble for the two of you, if you don’t find a way to resolve the problem in a way that is healthy for you both, and your relationship.</p>
<p>Let’s look at the first type, the ones who want to talk about everything, all the time, even it means staying up all night yelling at each other. There are pros and cons to this approach to problem-solving. A pro-side to this approach is that everything gets out in the open; nothing is bottled up or “saved for later,” it all comes barrelling out. This type of arguing is in-your-face kind of honest, which is both a good thing (who wants hidden feelings?) and a bad thing (can get a little intense) On the con-side: This type tends to be a little more high-strung (bad-tempered?) and stubborn, so get ready for loud arguments and lots and lots of questions. They will make you stay up all night if necessary, because going to bed angry doesn’t solve any problems, it just makes things worse.</p>
<p>Now the second type: This is the type that prefers to sit quietly, mull things over, even “sulk” (to outsiders) over issues. Talking about problems isn’t always necessary, and attempts to get them to open up will likely just make the situation worse. When asked “What’s wrong?” they’ll likely say “nothing,” even though it isn’t the case. Unlike the first type, they’d rather think about things before saying anything; they’d rather avoid the fireworks of conflict. On the pro-side: they are more likely to think about things in a rational way, rather than just burst out with all of their emotions all over the place. They are likely to make logical arguments instead of go with their feelings, and stick to the issue at hand. On the con-side: They can leave their partner feeling shut out if they don’t talk about their problems; it’s supposed to be a partnership, and partnerships need honesty. Also, their tendencies to be ultra-“logical” can come across as cold or belittling when talking about their partner’s emotions.</p>
<p><strong>What did we do? </strong>Well to be really honest, I’m more of the first type, and dear BF is more of the second type, so we’ve had our share of crazy arguments (pre-and post-move, 5.5 years remember?) that cater to both of our styles. Over the years, I’ve learned to trust that he will talk about what is bothering him when he’s ready, and that his need for space when upset has nothing to do with our relationship; it’s just his way. On his side, he’s learned to deal with my emotional outbursts without patronizing me (is there anything worse than being told to “calm down” when you’re good and angry?), that I just need to get everything off my chest, even if it seems over the top. We are honest with each other, try to listen to what the other is saying, and respect that we don’t always see things, or deal with things, the same way. What matters is that we’ve managed to blend together our problem-solving in a way that leaves us both feeling respected and listened to, and ready to move on from the issue. Remember: once something has been argued about and resolved, leave it in the past where it belongs. Learn from it and move on; don’t bring it up every time you have a fight.</p>
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		<title>Cohabitation and Relationship – Part Nine: Scheduling?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:14:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Cheryl Coull</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[You know how it goes: Someone calls/emails and says, “Are you free for dinner next Saturday night?” Pre-cohabitation, “you” generally just means you, particularly in the person inviting you knows you and your significant other well. However, now that you are living together, “you” tends to mean you and your partner both – “girls’ nights” [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- sphereit start --><p>You know how it goes: Someone calls/emails and says, “Are you free for dinner next Saturday night?” Pre-cohabitation, “you” generally just means you, particularly in the person inviting you knows you and your significant other well. However, now that you are living together, “you” tends to mean you and your partner both – “girls’ nights” or “boys’ nights” excepted, of course. You are now expected to have some idea of what your partner is doing during the week and weekend, but how do you keep on top of it?</p>
<p>Trying to work around each other’s scheduling can be exasperating, especially if you work opposite hours, or have commitments besides work, such as school, volunteering, or interest groups. The best way to deal with this, especially with fluctuating schedules, is to have a common place to keep everyone’s information together, such as a calendar (paper or computer) so everyone knows what’s going on. **This isn’t to suggest, though, that this means that Partner A can start making couple-plans without speaking to Partner B; that’s not appropriate. What <em>is</em> appropriate, however, is having a general sense of where you can expect your partner to be, so that if an invitation comes up, you’ll be able to respond better than “I have no idea what his/her plans are.” How you work it out is up to you: whether you put everything together and expect each other to check it out once in a while, or sit down every now and then and go through it together; either way can work our just fine. What’s important is that you have an open flow of communication regarding your appointments and schedules.</p>
<p><strong>What did we do?</strong> BF’s new iPhone has a calendar on it, so he keeps his appointments there. I, on the other hand, tend to eschew most “technology” and prefer the paper-and-pencil method of the classic dayrunner, or as we like to call it, “Cher’s Magic Book.” Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, goes in the Magic Book. My appointments, his appointments, family dinners, meetings, my tutoring sessions, his poker nights, EVERYTHING. Every so often he brings out his iPhone and I bring out my Magic Book and we compare schedules, just to make sure we aren’t double-booking ourselves. If someone calls or emails and invites us somewhere, we still check with each other before commiting to anything, but we’re at least able to give our inviter an idea of whether or not it’s likely doable. (I heartily endorse the Blueline Dayrunner, as it has the months and the numbers but not days of the week, so you don’t have to worry about it being this year or last year; it also has plenty of room for writing!)</p>
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		<title>Cohabitation and Relationship – Part Eight: Downtime</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:11:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Cheryl Coull</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[So you’ve both worked all week (or gone to school, or whatever) and it’s finally the weekend. Two glorious days laid out in front of you with relatively limitless options; how will you spend this time? Go out? Stay in? Have friends over? Get up early and get some things done? Sleep in? There are [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<!-- sphereit start --><p>So you’ve both worked all week (or gone to school, or whatever) and it’s finally the weekend. Two glorious days laid out in front of you with relatively limitless options; how will you spend this time? Go out? Stay in? Have friends over? Get up early and get some things done? Sleep in? There are lots of possibilities, which is great, but if you can’t agree on what to do, it could be a problem.</p>
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<p>Remembering that a weekend is TWO days, it isn’t hard to compromise. You can pick what to do one day, and your partner can pick the next, for example. Support each other’s interests, as it’s part of being a couple; who knows, you might enjoy doing what your partner wants to do, even if you don’t initially think so. Another idea to keep in mind: being a couple, even a cohabitating couple, doesn’t mean you have to do EVERYTHING together, right? If you want to spend Saturday morning sleeping in but your partner wants to go for a walk, hand them their iPod and make plans to meet up for lunch. Spending a little time apart is good for a relationship! We all need time to recharge our batteries, and sometimes that comes in different forms for different people.</p>
<p><strong>What did we do?</strong> It’s no secret to those who know us that I am, in no way, any kind of morning person. In fact, without an alarm clock, I could sleep until early afternoon with no problem whatsoever. BF, on the other hand, is a little more of a morning person, and has (somewhat grudgingly) accepted my “morning laziness” as an opportunity to do things he wants to do, like go for a bike ride, clean his car, etc. He knows that later, when I get up, we’ll hang out and do stuff together, so it’s no big deal. We’ll decide later what to do, whether it’s a lunch date, or out to the movies, or spending time with our friends or families.</p>
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