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November 18, 2009

Cohabitation and Relationship – Part Eight: Downtime

So you’ve both worked all week (or gone to school, or whatever) and it’s finally the weekend. Two glorious days laid out in front of you with relatively limitless options; how will you spend this time? Go out? Stay in? Have friends over? Get up early and get some things done? Sleep in? There are lots of possibilities, which is great, but if you can’t agree on what to do, it could be a problem.

Remembering that a weekend is TWO days, it isn’t hard to compromise. You can pick what to do one day, and your partner can pick the next, for example. Support each other’s interests, as it’s part of being a couple; who knows, you might enjoy doing what your partner wants to do, even if you don’t initially think so. Another idea to keep in mind: being a couple, even a cohabitating couple, doesn’t mean you have to do EVERYTHING together, right? If you want to spend Saturday morning sleeping in but your partner wants to go for a walk, hand them their iPod and make plans to meet up for lunch. Spending a little time apart is good for a relationship! We all need time to recharge our batteries, and sometimes that comes in different forms for different people.

What did we do? It’s no secret to those who know us that I am, in no way, any kind of morning person. In fact, without an alarm clock, I could sleep until early afternoon with no problem whatsoever. BF, on the other hand, is a little more of a morning person, and has (somewhat grudgingly) accepted my “morning laziness” as an opportunity to do things he wants to do, like go for a bike ride, clean his car, etc. He knows that later, when I get up, we’ll hang out and do stuff together, so it’s no big deal. We’ll decide later what to do, whether it’s a lunch date, or out to the movies, or spending time with our friends or families.

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